Taking charge of your business, of your life, of what happens to you from this day forward sounds like a daunting task, but it doesn't have to be. The hardest and most important part is realizing that where you are now in your life, the type of job, the business, your life, has all been the result of decisions you have made in the past.
Oh sure, there are always outside influences and others doing things that may have impeded you, but they actually didn't have anything to do with your outcome so far. Why? Because it's not what they said or did or didn't do that made the difference, it's YOU, how you reacted to it, how you decided to left it influence you.
This is your first step and it's the biggie. Taking responsibility, true, real responsibility for where you are now.
Have you ever heard that money attracts money, that "s/he gets all the breaks", or people are lucky? They really do actually attract what you call breaks or luck. Know why? Because they really and truly, in their heart BELIEVE they deserve it. Hey, they do and so do you!
It is true. Whatever energy you give to the world, the world gives back. So, let's say you're having a bad day. How do you handle it? Grumpy, telling everyone you're having a bad day, when things go wrong, you keep dropping things, bumping into things, etc., you curse, swear, getting angrier? NO You drop something, pick it up, be totally conscious with everything you do that day, hum a happy tune (even if it's just in your head). You get the idea, it's all how YOU CHOOSE to handle it, react to it, take control and make it go the way you want it to.
This is true for absolutely everything in your life. So, with this in mind, stop, think, backtrack from where you are now to the decisions that brought you here. Include those things that you believe influenced you or even made the decision for you. Did they really, or did you let them? You let them, be honest with yourself, because even inaction and letting others "do it" to or for you is your decision. Include your personal life, your business's direction, growth or lack of growth.
Now, remember, this is the hardest part, but soooo important. Be absolutely honest with yourself (no one else is going to see this, but it's important that you do). As you go through your list and look at the influences and decisions that brought you here that, until now, you believed were beyond your control, think of and write down exactly how YOU actually made that happen. Also remember, some of these are good experiences and decisions. Keep track of those as well, be proud of them.
OK, go think, ponder and write. You will not believe how much power you really have over the supposed "accidents" in life.